When it comes to sex positions, Ryan Keely says that the tangled gymnastics porn stars often perform onscreen are not necessarily the most desirable to try in real life.
“I feel like adult performers should be doing more public service announcements to young viewers about the scenes they see in our films,” says the 15-year industry veteran of the wildly dynamic erotic imbroglios she regularly finds herself in.
“We are paid to shoot scenes that are frequently NOT REALISTIC for average people having sex, because we are portraying a fantasy for fans who are enjoying a voyeuristic angle from a director’s POV. Sex is about giving and receiving pleasure, NOT a race to the finish with pile drivers, rapid-fire slamming and cardio bursts that are more exhausting than enjoyable.”
Keely explains that there are two positions that deserve more respect: “Missionary, or mish, is my all-time personal fave. I know I’m not the only person that appreciates the intimacy of being face- to-face with my partner, full body contact and the unlimited number of variations on this classic. Some may call it vanilla, but I think it is truly a kaleidoscope of orgasmic possibilities. I’m still discovering new ways to rock it!
“But I really want to give a shout out to spoon, which is one of the few positions in porn that seamlessly translates to real life. You still get the intimacy of being within kissing distance of your partner, but with more G spot contact like in doggy, and easier access for caressing the clit without having to break that body-to-body contact like you would in mish, or awkward fumbling. Plus, who doesn’t like to be the little spoon from time to time?”
Reverse cowgirl, on the other hand, “is one of those positions that you will see in almost every single porn scene but really sucks. Even as a highly trained professional, it is one of my least favorites. Visually it’s fantastic – you see the entire female body and the penetration – but physically it’s hard to perform. It requires doing a lot a squats, and fairly quickly, on that dick and for me, it hits nowhere near my G spot and as I’m using both of my arms for balance, I can’t rub my clit.”
Keely recommends one position in particular that’s ideal for intimacy with a partner. “Yab Yum is a tantric essential and one of the bases of Kama Sutra; it involves both partners facing each other in a sitting position, holding each other, and making eye contact.
“Some say it can reawaken chakras if you’re into all that fun stuff, but for me, I love being able to connect with my partner deeply, through touch, eye contact and I might even take a little nibble on his ear or cheek if we’re that close.”
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