GoAskAlex is giving fans a special sneak peek into her personal life with the launch of her recent Arousibility first-person commentary, ‘Adjusting to My Sexual Body with an Ostomy’, on her official website, Go Ask Alex Online.
The adult performer, model, influencer and disability advocate continues to shine a spotlight on her myriad struggles, challenges, triumphs and feats since her 2019 ostomy, which necessitated the removal of her large intestine and the addition of an ileostomy and bag/external ostomy system.
“I knew from an early age that it was a possibility, but nothing could have prepared me for waking up from surgery with an ileostomy,” writes Alex of the live-changing event. “I spent a total of one month in the hospital, and it took nearly two months before I could independently walk and care for myself again. This was a massive shift for me, as I had never struggled with mobility before the major surgery that left me with this permanent medical device.”
Alex deftly notes that “as an adult entertainer, returning to work meant returning to sex; there was no way around it… not only had I become accustomed to the flexibility and financial comfort of webcam streaming and content creation, but it was only after my surgery that I realized that my medical supplies would cost me upwards of $1000 per month (yes, for the rest of my life!).
“Over time, I developed systems that allowed me to feel more comfortable on-screen and with sexual partners… I can’t say that it is easier now… The journey hasn’t ended, and I’ve come to realize that it never will. During every sexual encounter (both on or off-screen), I find myself overly conscious of the way that my body differs from ‘conventional’.
“Ultimately I have learned that there is no destination, no beginning and end; there is only the continual journey of radical self-acceptance,” she concludes. “To anyone who is struggling with their sexuality amidst a disability or chronic illness, I would say this: It is a journey of ups and downs, and as long as you do your best to be kind to yourself in the process, then you are on the right track.”
