TORONTO, CANADA — Brace yourselves, men: More than one-half of women think size does matter, according to a recent survey by Canada’s Sun Media.The Great Canadian Female Sex Survey, which included a sample of 1,003 Canadian women 18 and older, revealed 41-percent think size matters a little. Thirteen-percent said size matters a lot.
The most likely group to measure first and ask questions later comprised single women younger than 45 who live in Quebec.
Sex educator Sue Johanson said men should not be overly concerned. Women do appreciate large erections, but not for the reason men think.
According to Johanson, women “equate it with how sexy they are. They look at their partner when they have this humongous erection and they say, ‘oh wow, I can really yank his crank.’”
Size matters very little in generating a physiological response, she added.
“Most women reach orgasm through clitoral stimulation,” Johanson told the Toronto Sun.
Sexologist Brian Parker, who holds a PhD and an EdD in human sexuality, offered even more comforting words.
“Most of the pleasurable female nerve endings are within the first two inches of the vaginal canal,” he told the Sun.
Regardless their partner’s size, women expect men to be adept with their equipment. Half of the survey’s respondents said they do not keep “power tools” near the bed. Only 25-percent said they own vibrators, and only one in three said they use erotic lubricants. Most of the women who admitted relying on sex toys reside in Quebec, the Maritime Provinces and Ontario.
Sexologist Trina Read told the Sun women may not admit to owning sex toys because doing so is tantamount to admitting their sex lives fall flat somewhere.
“What it’s saying is you’re sexually inadequate,” she opined. “We are supposedly emancipated women, and still a lot of women just don’t feel comfortable with it.”
Fantasies seem to be taboo, too. Sixty-percent of survey respondents said they don’t fantasize at all during lovemaking. Those who do said their favorite subjects are old boyfriends or imaginary characters.
“Some people might think that it’s like cheating,” Parker, who counsels couples experiencing sexual difficulties, told the Sun. “[Fantasizing is] perfectly normal, and a tool that we will sometimes use for individuals and couples to improve their sex life.
“More often than not, openly sharing fantasies will bring lovers closer together and lead to new and exciting experiences in the bedroom,” Parker said. “It doesn’t mean they are cheating on their partner.”
